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Put A Bandaid On It…

Posted in Christian, Christmas, Christmas Party, Church, Comics, Community, Country, Culture, DC, Devotion, Digital, Dining, Election, Electronics, End Times, Entertainment, Evangelism, Faith, Family, Fantasy, Food, Fun, Geek, Global, God, Government, Health, HIstory, Holiday, Holy Spirit, Jesus Christ, Leadership, Life, Love, Marriage, Marvel, Medical, Military, Ministry, Money, Movies, Music, Nerd, New Testament, Old Testament, Pastors, Pittsburgh, Political, Prayer, Real Talk, Resurrection, Sacrifice, Sci Fi, Social Media, Spiritual, sports, Superheroes, Supernatural, Taboo Topics, The Church, The Law, Travel, TV, Tworship, Vampires, Werewolf, worship with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on December 24, 2014 by BigPhatPastor

So a few months ago I pulled a tendon in my left arm.  It took forever to heal because I kept going right back out and doing the thing that caused the damage in the first place, #dagorhir (you’re going to have to Google it).  After weeks of it not healing I finally took a few weeks off from sparring and gym workouts to let it heal.  Then I gradually re-engaged in both #dagorhir  and gym workouts.  It took time but it healed. 


So what do you think I did when I pulled a tendon in my right arm a few weeks later (this was after a pulled abdominal muscle and a few thumb smashes…#dagorhir)? I went right back at it without allowing time for healing.  Of course once I finally took a few weeks off it began to heal; I am still in that healing process.

I look at our nation now and I see a nation that needs to heal, from wounds of lost loved ones, from wounds of lost trust and confidence, and from wounds caused by hatred and bigotry. This nation, we make up this nation, need time to heal.

Over the Christmas weekend take some time to heal.  Step away from the keyboard.  Don’t respond to any flagrant posts or tweets. Ignore the rants and tirades and spend the weekend with family and loved ones.  We all need time to heal.  #merrychristmas.


Busy Busy Busy

Posted in Christian, Christmas, Christmas Party, Community, Culture, Devotion, Digital, Faith, Family, Fun, God, Holy Spirit, Jesus Christ, Life, Prayer, Real Talk, Spiritual, Taboo Topics with tags , , , , on November 14, 2014 by BigPhatPastor


Many are already planning to visit family for the holidays or are preparing their homes for family and friends to come visit.  The holidays present a time of high activity and hustle and bustle in our homes, schools, work places and in our communities.  But let’s not get so busy that we forsake our precious alone time with God.  It just might be the thing that gets us through the hustle and bustle.  “Time spent alone with God is not wasted. It changes us; it changes our surroundings; and every Christian who would live the life that counts and have power for service must take time to pray.” – M.E. Andross

Election Day!!!!

Posted in Christian, Church, Devotion, Election, Faith, God, Government, HIstory, Jesus Christ, Pastors, Real Talk, Taboo Topics, The Church, worship with tags , , , , , , on October 31, 2014 by BigPhatPastor


Today as you are making final decisions to cast your vote in the upcoming elections please pray that we, as Christ followers, remember that when the United States declared its independence from Great Britain it was a unanimous decision based on knowing God as “Creator” and “Supreme Judge of the world” to whom we were accountable, and with the expectation of His “divine providence” in our success as an independent nation as was declared in the Declaration of Independence.  Pray that today and going forward we, as Christ followers, are united again in seeking the will of our Creator for His divine providence for our nation. #amen!


Posted in Bullying, Community, Culture, Faith, Family, Life, Love, Real Talk, Taboo Topics, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , on December 5, 2013 by BigPhatPastor

I had to go back before I wrote this and try to search how many posts, blogs, and tweets had come my way but I did nothing about.  Let’s just say there was an extremely embarrassing amount.  Every time someone sent me a tweet, or img_6747_bw_3posted on their blog about bullying I was angry about the act, but I still did nothing.  Maybe it was because my kids are no longer kids.  Maybe it was because even when they were they didn’t bully people or get bullied (my oldest son is a professional cage fighter so I could be wrong on this one).  Maybe it’s because I haven’t heard about any of the youth in our congregation being bullied or bullying others but for whatever reason I somehow didn’t think the posts, tweets, or social media groups applied to me…until December 1st 2013, the Sunday of Thanksgiving weekend.

A friend sent me a text which I was only able to read part of at the time.  Our praise team was taking part in a community choir festival involving multiple congregations and musicians from various communities.  I didn’t want to be that guy reading text messages during the event (although I was that guy taking pictures and posting them during the event).  The only part of the text I saw was: ‘call Popeye, his daughter hun’.  I consider myself a pretty smart guy so I figured I could determine the full message by just what I read but nothing seemed to make sense.  And the thing that did make sense didn’t make sense…so I read the rest of the text whilst standing with everyone at the festival to sing Silent Night.  Unfortunately, I was right.  Popeye, a friend, part of a motorcycle ministry called Michael’s Marauders, had a teenage daughter named Faith.   Some of the Marauders and their family members had visited CrossRoads for a weekend in mid-September, their third annual visit with our CrossRoads congregation.  Many of the Marauders I knew from when we were all part of the same congregation in Northern, VA where they are based.  I had just met Popeye’s family including Faith during the September visit.  Although I did not know Faith that well, it was still painful and shocking to read the text in its entirety: ‘call Popeye, his daughter hung herself and died. I just got off the phone with him.’

FaithIt turned out that Faith took her own life as a result of bullying.  I can’t imagine how bad a teenage girl with a loving family and friends has to be treated to be pushed to the point where she feels she cannot live another day.  I cannot imagine what Popeye, his wife, Faith’s siblings, or her friends are going through at having lost someone they loved so much.  For me, every time I look at her picture my heart literally breaks with pain for Faith, what she must have went through, and for her family, what they are going through now.  But I have to be honest.  I also get extremely ticked off! I feel like I am boiling with rage!  All over the world children are dying from curable and incurable diseases, from hunger, from adults that want to hurt them and do unspeakable things to them.  They should not be dying because of the way they are treated by other children.  #NOMORE

One thing I have always felt strongly about and still do is that with all of the national and global resources available, no child, or adult, should ever have to die from hunger.  Now I can add to that, that no child should ever be treated in such a way that they feel their only recourse is to stop living.  So from now on, I will not just read, but will retweet and repost everything that comes my way that will help put a stop to bullying.  I will aggressively respond to those who feel bullied and even more aggressively call out children who do it, and parents and school districts who allow it.  This isn’t a church thing, this isn’t a race thing, this isn’t a political thing or a separation of church and state or separation of 99% and 1% thing.  This is a pure and simple “have some freaking decency and respect for human life thing”.  #NOMORE

3 Questions Every Christ Follower Should Ask…Now

Posted in Celebration, Christian, Christmas, Community, Culture, Family, God, Holiday, Holy Spirit, Jesus Christ, Life, Real Talk, Spiritual, Taboo Topics, The Church, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , , on December 12, 2012 by BigPhatPastor

I realize this post may offend some but it will inspire others.  For those of you who are into more of my lighter and more casual stuff skip this one…next one is for you, I promise.

Manger CrossRoadsIf you are a Christ follower and are a part of a congregation that is looking forward to and planning on celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ, here are 3 questions every member of that congregation needs to ask of themselves, their leadership, and their pastor.  While I respect the views and differing opinions of everyone, I also respect the Words of Jesus Christ on this topic.  So, just as I allow you the freedom to express your opinion I appreciate being allowed to express mine.

1 – Do you/we believe that Jesus Christ was really born of an actual virgin: This is important because there are many discussions going around today that say this verbiage should be minimized in order not to offend others.  This includes changes to Bibles to remove the word virgin from Old and New Testament passages.  That is totally different from those who say the virgin birth did not actually occur but was an analogy.  In otherwords, they claim there was no physical birth by a virgin woman that occurred via the Holy Spirit although there are the claims of numerous Old Testament prophecies, Mary and Joseph (Joseph had absolutely nothing to gain by supporting the claim), and many New Testament writers who record the virgin birth not just as a miracle, but a factual one.

2 – Do you/we believe that Jesus’ birth has an impact on my life: This question is kind of crucial because Jesus Himself said He was the Messiah, the one of whom over 300 Old Testament prophecies foretold.  If He was not telling the truth about His birth, then why should we believe the truth about His death, burial, and resurrection which are the actual events that free us from sin and allow us to enter into relationship with God the Creator?  The birth of Jesus Christ only impacts one’s life if it is true, even if no one believes it.  If it is false, it really has no impact on anyone’s life even if they choose to believe it (not a Godly impact anyway).  Believing a lie doesn’t make it true.

3 – If I/we believe the virgin, historical, factual birth of Jesus Christ occurred, and does impact my life, is it worth celebrating: There are many today who, as Christ followers, feel that we should not celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ because it is associated with a pagan holiday.  Although that is an un-biblical stance I will not try to persuade people one way or another (although in a teaching series called “How the Grinch Stole Christmas” I addressed this topic Biblically in great detail.  You can check it out on the Our Message page of the CrossRoads Website).  I will say this though, with all the sports game wins, family or scholastic or job achievements we celebrate, surely, the birth of Jesus Christ, God in the flesh, deserves a joyful remembrance by comparison.

Praying everyone has a safe, blessed, and very merry Christmas!

A Sure Thing?!?!?!?!?!

Posted in Bible, Christian, Community, Country, Family, Global, Government, Political, Prayer, Real Talk, Spiritual, Taboo Topics, The Church, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , on October 30, 2012 by BigPhatPastor

I’m a registered Independent and I do not support or endorse any political party or candidate (I have to state this  so no one gets confused).

Although many people have committed to vote for a specific candidate or political party there are still many people debating and trying to determine which candidate is the best option for 2012.  Unfortunately, we have no immediate way of telling because there are three things that are out of our control.  No matter which candidate we vote for we will never be able to tell if the candidate was…

1.  Not committed to doing anything they said they would; in other words they told us what they wanted us to hear in order to get into office.  Sorry if some of you are hearing this for the 1st time but politicians do lie; either intentionally or unintentionally, they tell false truths.

2.  Was stopped from doing everything they said they would.  Just because you voted for a candidate and they won doesn’t mean everyone else supports that candidate.  A lot of opposition can come comes against candidates, their party, and what they are trying to achieve…even ones that win the popular vote.

3.  Unprepared to do everything they said they would.  Very few candidates, even good intentioned ones, are able to fulfill all of their campaign promises.  Some promises are unfulfilled due to opposition from other parties, but some are unfulfilled because the candidate did not have all of the information before making the promise.  Believe it or not, a lot of promises are made due to the unpopularity of another candidate, an existing unpopular law or bill, or other reasons that may not supply the candidate with all of the necessary facts.

From a Biblical perspective, God knows the answer to all of these questions.  Throughout history He has worked in the hearts of national leaders to fulfill His purpose for the benefit of His people; even governments and leaders that were opposed to Him, rejected Him, and didn’t even believe in Him.  So I advise every Christ follower, to not just jump on a person, political party, or platform bandwagon.  Instead, fall on your knees in prayer and fasting and ask God for His guidance.

What I Should Have Said…

Posted in Celebration, Christian, Community, Devotion, Global, God, Jesus Christ, Life, Pastors, Real Talk, Taboo Topics, The Church, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , on November 1, 2011 by BigPhatPastor

Have you ever had one of those conversations where you look back and think it would have been so cool if I would have responded with…?  I remember one, and I wish it went something like…

Person: So how big is your church?

Me: Huge, thousands upon thousands; ten thousand times ten thousand.

Person: Which denomination is it?

Me: It’s not really a denomination.  It was started as a movement to reveal God to the world and it’s still going.

Person: Oh, is it one of those new age religions by one of those new popular guys who wrote a best selling book?

Me: No, it’s had the same leader since it started, and He wrote THE best selling book of all time.

Person: Really? How long has it been around?

Me: Pretty long, about two thousand years.

Person: Seriously? So what time do you guys meet on Sundays?

Me: We don’t just meet on Sundays.  We meet every day in homes, schools, workplaces, neighborhoods, communities, gyms, in public and in hiding in places all over the globe.  We meet anywhere and everywhere that we can share and show the love of Jesus Christ through our lives, our joys, our troubles and our tragedies.  We celebrate God every day in every way.

Person: Really? So what’s it called?

Me: The Church.

Not the traditional church, not the contemporary church, not the liberal church, not the conservative church, not the black church, the white church, the Asian or Hispanic church, not the missional church, not the Gen-X church, not the post-modern church, not the evangelical church, not the pre-trib, mid-trib, or post trib church, not the Calvinism or Arminianism church, not the multi-site church, not the mega church.

Just simply the Church…God started it and it’s still going!

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